Choose to See the Best in Everyone and Everything: A Perspective Shift That Changes Everything

What if you could walk through life so open and clear and kind that every person, every moment, every experience held something valuable? What if instead of seeing flaws or obstacles, you trained your mind to focus on beauty, potential, and lessons waiting to unfold? This is the power of choosing to see the best in everyone and everything—a practice that doesn’t just transform how you see the world but how the world reflects back to you.

It is easy to get caught up in the cycle of seeing what's wrong with the world. Judging others too quickly, assuming the worst, or focusing on what’s lacking in your circumstances creates a lens of dissatisfaction. When you hold a critical lens toward others, you inevitably turn that same scrutiny inward. We become unsatisfied with ourselves, with our lives, and it becomes so easy to point out everything that's not going well. Once you notice one thing, you notice another and another.

When you are in this headspace, you tend to meet other people who are in a similar headspace and you spend your time complaining about things together, talking shit and focusing on everything you don't like. It feels good to have other people around you validate what you see that is wrong with the world, you feel justified in your opinions, as if complaining about things and pointing out what is wrong will somehow fix it or make it better. If we are aware of the problem then we can do something to change it. Except that rarely happens, you get caught up in pointing out all the things that are wrong while never actually doing something to make a change.

I've got a secret for you. The change starts within. You can complain that the outside world needs to change, and point out exactly why and how it should change, but that changes nothing. But when you change yourself, you decide how you want to show up in the world, how you want to interact with what's going on around you, how you want to influence the world and then you actually do it, you begin to radiate a new energy around you. Instead of becoming problem focused, you become solution focused.

When you train your mind to become solution focused, you don't get caught up in talking about the problem, you immediately jump to what is within your control to remedy the problem. Because you don't spend any time marinading in negativity, you maintain your feel good feels. When you are feeling good, electric, on fire problems become opportunities, problems become easily manageable. You manage them, then they're gone. No need to complain.

This mindset doesn’t just affect how you see the world; it also reflects how you see yourself. When you keep your energy high and mitigate problems with ease, you spend more time being happy and fulfilled. When you're happy and fulfilled you dont want to find things that make you feel bad, you don't want to spend time thinking thoughts that put you in a poor state of mind.

When you choose to see the best in everyone and everything, you are choosing to open your heart and mind to possibility. This perspective doesn’t mean ignoring red flags or being naive; it means intentionally seeking the beauty, potential, and lessons that lie beneath the surface. When you are connected to your heart center, you trust that you can handle everything that comes your way. That the challenges you face are meant to help you grow and overcome limiting beliefs. Instead of perceiving roadblocks, you see opportunities for growth. Challenges become stepping stones, not barriers. You feel more grateful, resilient, and optimistic. Most importantly, by consistently choosing to see the best, you elevate your own frequency, attracting more positivity, harmony, and success.

The ultimate goal is to create a life where you move through the world with grace, gratitude, and hope. You want to cultivate relationships rooted in mutual respect and love, where you see the potential in others and inspire them to do the same. When you give people the benefit of the doubt or see their strengths before their shortcomings, they are more likely to rise to your level of faith in them. On a personal level, the goal is to feel lighter and freer by releasing the burden of judgment and embracing a more expansive perspective. Life feels richer when you see even the smallest things—a kind gesture, a sunrise, a stranger’s smile—as a testament to the goodness in the world.

Choosing to see the best isn’t always easy. Past experiences, fear, and societal conditioning can all lead us to distrust or judge others. It’s tempting to focus on what’s lacking in someone rather than celebrating what they bring to the table. Similarly, if you’ve been hurt or let down in the past, you might find it difficult to shift your mindset without feeling vulnerable.

But this is an obstacle you are meant to overcome. Start with the basics, the first step is noticing. Notice when you are complaining, seeing the worst in someone, or pointing out what's wrong. When you notice it, now is your chance to make a change. Try to find something to appreciate about the situation, the silver lining, the way that this experience is teaching you something. The answer might surprise you. It could be someone’s kindness, resilience, or even the way they challenge you to grow. It might be the opportunity hidden within a setback or the lesson buried in an uncomfortable experience.

When you spend time with other people, look for their strengths, the unique perspective and energy that they bring to a situation. Appreciate them for who they are, instead of finding the ways in which they could be different or "better." Share what you see. I noticed the way people lit up when I acknowledged their strengths. Thank them for what they bring to your life, for the unique role they play in your world.

You can do this in situations, too. Notice how a situation is serving you, what it is bringing up for you, and how it is helping you grow. Acknowledge what you see, express a silent prayer of gratitude for the situation and what it is doing for you. Acknowledge your own ability to identify these things, and congradulate yourself, be proud of yourseld, express gratitude for yourself. When I began doing this, I felt more at ease, more open, and more able to appreciate the beauty in life’s imperfections. Now, I can honestly say that this simple shift has transformed my relationships and my outlook on life.

Choosing to see the best in everyone and everything is not about perfection—it’s about practice. Each day offers countless opportunities to ask yourself, “What’s the best I can see in this person or situation?” The more you practice, the more natural it becomes, and the more you’ll realize that the world reflects the energy you bring to it. By seeking the best, you invite the best into your life.